I consider all the blogs I have listed on the right under the heading “Blogs That Had Me At Hello” to be my friends, even though I don’t actually know any of them (except This is 14th Street but her grammar and spelling are often times disastrous and offensive).
I consider us friends because we’re linked through some shared interest (like most friends are). We share a love of letting others into our lives, letting them read our most private thoughts and experiences and hoping that they will validate us by leaving comments. And because obviously we have a lot in common, otherwise I wouldn’t like their writing or their humor or their stories. And because if I ever needed money I wouldn’t hesitate to go to any of them.
Which is why it’s so painful that this morning I had to delete a blog off the list. Not This is 14th Street because she often fails to capitalize words at the beginning of sentences (?) and not Citizen of the Month because he likes to accuse me of pedophiliac intentions; no it was a much more sad reason than that. Hermitude in NYC has shut down her blog.
I first came across Hermitude in NYC as a link on someone else’s blog, as is the most common way to make new friends. Even though I don’t think “hermitude” is a word, I was immediately taken with her dry wit, her love of burritos and her incredible hair. There was no question: she had me at hello.
Over the next few months our relationship grew. I began commenting on her posts with off color and provocative remarks. We bonded over our war with Time Warner Cable, marking the first time we would link each other. We were on the fast track to forming a blog clique, replete with inside jokes and references to people no one else knew and incessant hyper-linking.
But then things changed. Hermitude had a birthday and a rebirth and wiped out all her previous posts and started anew. I could smell the change in the air like tuna salad.
She posted a few more times in the following weeks but then yesterday came the post I was fearing: “Farewell to Blogging.” I commented, begging her to stay. It was no good. She was already gone. Today it’s only: Not Found. No use checking the Blogger Knowledge Base for further assistance – I know they don’t have the answers to my problem.
It’s hard losing a friend, but it’s harder losing a friend you never knew, mostly because you don’t know how to say goodbye. Literally, you don’t know how to reach them in order to say goodbye. And even if you could reach them, you would have to say something like, “Hey, Hermitude? The Daily Dump misses you.” Meaning you would not only be referring to yourself in the third person, but in the third person blog name. That’s a hard thing to do, and more than a little embarrassing for someone like me with the word “dump” in their blog name. So I’ll just say this: “Hermitude, if you’re reading this – Good luck with whatever you do in life. You’ve been a great friend. Thanks for the bloggeries. (Kind of like blog memories, you know? Bloggeries? Or maybe Moggeries? I’m just rambling now . . . I’ve never been good at goodbyes.)